Your relationship story is your own — some of this may still feel familiar
You’re having the same argument on repeat, and it never really resolves.
You feel more like roommates than partners.
One of you shuts down, the other pushes, and you both end up feeling alone.
The little resentments have quietly stacked up into distance.
You still love each other, but you’ve lost the way you used to connect.
You’re not sure whether you’re growing together or growing apart.
Reaching out isn’t a sign of failure — it’s a sign you both still care.
Support for whatever you’re navigating
Communication that keeps failing
The same fights, the misreadings, and conversations that turn into conflict.
Disconnection & distance
Feeling more like roommates than partners, and drifting quietly apart.
Trust, betrayal & repair
Rebuilding after an affair, a breach of trust, or old hurts that still linger.
Intimacy & desire
Reconnecting emotionally and physically when closeness has faded.
Recurring conflict cycles
The pursue-withdraw loop, escalation, and arguments that never quite land.
Change as a couple
Parenting, blended families, careers, and transitions that test the relationship.
A calm, structured space for both of you
Sessions are a steady space where both partners are heard. We slow down the cycles that keep repeating, and anything that’s causing harm is named gently but clearly, so those patterns can be explored rather than simply repeated.
Rather than relying on a single method, Erica draws from a range of evidence-based approaches, matched to what fits you as a couple, with practical tools for communication, repair, and reconnection you can use between sessions.
Approaches and principles that may inform the work:
Guided by evidence-based training
You’ll work with Erica Harris — a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) trained in trauma-informed care, who also draws on Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy in her work with couples. She draws on the range of approaches shown above, matched to what you need as a couple.
Erica brings warmth and honesty. Both of you are heard, and where the relationship is hurting, it’s named directly and with care, so it can be understood and worked through together.
Meet EricaNeutral, practical, and for both of you
Both of you, heard
Each partner has an opportunity to be heard and understood. Where something is causing harm, it can be named with care, not blame.
A gentle first session
We start by understanding your relationship and what you both hope for.
Practical tools
Sessions may include practical tools to support communication, repair and connection between sessions.
Accessible & virtual
Fully online across British Columbia and Ontario, with a sliding scale available for financial hardship.
Simple, transparent pricing
The 80-minute session gives more room to work things through, if that suits you. Sessions aren’t covered by MSP or OHIP, but many extended-health plans reimburse part or all of the fee. Receipts are provided, and a sliding scale is available for those facing financial hardship, at the therapist’s discretion.
See all fees & policies →Couples counselling FAQs
What if my partner won’t come?
Both partners need to participate willingly to engage in couples counselling. If only one partner wants counselling, individual counselling is the better place to start. Erica won’t begin couples work with one partner and bring the other in later, as that would introduce bias.
What is the Gottman Method?
It’s an evidence-based approach built on decades of research into what makes relationships last. In practice, it means practical tools for communication, managing conflict, and rebuilding closeness.
Will you take sides?
Not for the sake of it. But this isn’t blanket neutrality either. Where something is causing harm, Erica will name it honestly and kindly (drawing on Terry Real’s approach), so you can move toward something healthier. Both of you will be heard.
Can it help if we’re thinking about separating?
Couples counselling can also provide a place to explore whether you want to work toward reconnection or consider separation. The goal isn’t to steer you toward either outcome, but to support thoughtful conversation, greater understanding and clarity about what comes next.
Is couples counselling appropriate for every relationship?
Not always. Suitability is assessed individually. Where there are concerns about coercion, control, violence, abuse or safety, couples counselling may not be appropriate, and individual or other appropriate support may be recommended instead. The free 15-minute consultation helps us understand what will best support you.
Is what we share confidential?
Yes. Sessions are private and confidential, subject to the limits of confidentiality required by law and professional ethics.
Every strong relationship is built, not found.
Book a free 15-minute consultation to see how couples therapy could help.